Thanet "Dear Ellen" 2 Thanet's Agony Aunt is here to answer your questions send her an email thanetchat@hotmail.com with your problem Dear Ellen I am going through a difficult stage of my life at the moment. I have started, not only comfort eating but comfort spending as well. I just can't help myself. I see various things in shops and magazines and I want them. It's so easy to get out my credit card and spend, spend, spend. There is a lot more too it than this but, I don't know what it is. Can you help me? Desperate Dear Big Spender!! Good for you, you only live once (or is that Twice!!!?) You know that James bond film?? Spend, Spend, Spend, that's my motto, ooh and if you're married let your wife have anything she likes, spoil your family and have a great time doing it you've earned it, It's about time you started living life to the full, and stopped holding back!! You sound like a lovely bloke `What are you doing tomorrow night? fancy a date with a gorgeous blonde naive bimbo type?? Or will you be dying your hair ?? Regards Ellen
Dear Ellen I would be very grateful if you could offer me some information/advice with the following. Ever since we got married, 6 years ago, my wife has insisted on me dressing in various kinds of females clothes for her while at home,usually for a hour or so on every two or three nights.She insists on me dressing for her always for love-making as she says that this is the only way that she can feel aroused and respond. For the most part I have always granted her wishes and the whole thing never gave me too many difficulties. In recent times however, she has become much more insistent and wants me to dress as a female for most of the time. Once dressed for her, she becomes very cranky and unloving if I take off the outfits she wants me in. About a week ago she announced that from now on I will have to wear tights and a slip both when dressed for her and under my male clothes for the rest of the time. Every morning before going to work for the past week she has put her hand up under my trouser leg to make sure that I don't take off the tights before leaving the house, and again she checks that I am still wearing them when I come home in the evening. I find having to wear a slip and tights under my male clothes while at work etc. very disturbing. Unlike wearing them with a skirt at home, every time you walk or move you become aware of the tights rubbing against the slip under your trousers. I mentioned this to Janet last night but she dismissed it saying that I would just have to get used to wearing them while adding that she was also going to try putting make up on me next. We actually have a very good relationship together and especially when I wear the females clothes for her she can be be loving and attentive. However I do not understand the reason why she makes me do these things and given that she now wants me dressed nearly all the time and is talking about make-up I do not understand where all this is going. Thanking You ,
Colin Colin I think your wife is reacting and behaving quite abnormally indeed, this is by far the strangest problem of all time! I think you really need to discuss this little fetish with her, man to woman! and ask her why she wants you to dress up!! Its certainly not normal by any means. Once you have determined the reason only you can decide the next step to take, what she is doing to you emotionally is very abusive really it is, and if you cant stand it tell her right now. Be strong and show her you hate doing this its ruining your respect for yourself and her too, if she wont budge tell her that you cannot degrade yourself anymore and take a break from her, you have your self respect to think about and your virility as a man!!! I think she needs a bit of counselling and perhaps you could benefit from telling her NO. NO, NO, NO and NO again! Go on stick up for yourself NOW Ellen
Hello Ellen, I hope you can help me. I have a deep and long-standing
fixation about my wife's best friend Carly. I feel that I have no choice but
to follow my manly instincts, and take her to bed asap (I don't want a
"relationship" with her). Now, I don't think she would mind at all- she has
been on her own for 4 years and I know she likes me, but unfortunately my
wife is being totally unreasonable about my wishes, and even becomes angry
when I try to discuss it with her. What can I do to help her to adopt a more
reasonable attitude?
MM
Dear MM, Well obviously the poor girl is going to be angry with you, its sounds like you've forgotten to let her know that she can have a go with your best mate or man of her choice as well! I'm sure she'll be much happier when you explain the situation more clearly and this will help the proceedings along no end! Good luck with the lovely Carly and i'm sure we all hope that the reason she's been single for so long isn't because she's a lezza! Let me know how your wife gets on with her extra marital pursuits. Aunty Ellen x | Leave a message Make a date Sell your goods Weather, Pets, Biking, Chatroom, Meeting place, Ellen, Eating out, Funny, Links, George, Guestbook, TIdes, Named, Pics, Interest, Recs, Strange, Swap, Business, Council, Events, News, Wot is it, John Allen | Thanet, Thanet Chat, COmmunity, birchington, westgate, margate, broadstairs, ramsgate, kinsgate, westcliffe, cliftonville, minnis bay, manston, cliffs end, thanet, kent, uk, planet thanet chat, language=JavaScript src="http://hits.nextstat.com/cgi-bin/wsv2.cgi?64400" type=text/javascript></SCRIPT> <NOSCRIPT>  </NOSCRIPT>
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